4: Externally-Focused Core Skills
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Of the five core skills of emotional intelligence, in this chapter, we will discuss the three externally focused core skills, social awareness, relationship management, and leadership. External focus refers to "others," both in terms of awareness and management of emotions.
Figure \(\PageIndex{1}\): Externally-Focused Core Skills from the EQ Framework. (CC BY 4.0; Ravi K Ravikumar) Alternate Image Description.The red rectangle in the Figure \(\PageIndex{1}\ highlights the area of discussion in this chapter. This covers the three skills social awareness, relationship management, and leadership. Under social awareness, we will cover three sub-skills: organizational awareness, active listening, and empathy. Under relationship management, we will cover the sub-skills building and managing trust, effective communication, and managing conflicts. Leadership encompasses the four core skills plus negotiation, and decisiveness for the scope of this book. The desired outcome from the externally-focused skills are to become socially aware, inspire others, and empower better collaboration.
Social awareness is our ability to understand how another person around us is feeling based on the situation they are currently experiencing. The person could be a part of the project team, or one of the stakeholders. They could also be internal or external to the organization. Relationship management refers to our ability to maintain good relationships by communicating clearly, working well in teams, and managing conflict. Do these apply to project management only? Absolutely not! They apply equally to life. Leadership is the ability to influence team members and stakeholders without any organizational power over them to drive a project to a successful conclusion. Apart from enabling, empowering, it involves the ability to guide, motivate, and direct a team.
- Define and explain social awareness including active listening and empathy.
- Apply those skills to read the thought process, feelings, and behavior of the people around us and their impact on engagement, team dynamics, and personal outcomes.
- Analyze and evaluate the effects of your ineffective inter-personal skills, or that of people's behavior on personal, and project outcomes.
- Develop strategy and a plan to strengthen your social awareness from the real-world cases.
- Define and explain relationship management including building and maintaining trust, importance of effective communication, and conflict management.
- Apply those skills and techniques to manage conflicts and build stronger relationships through trust, better and more empathetic communication.
- Identify, analyze and evaluate the effects of your ineffective relationship management skills on teamwork, resources allocation, management, and project outcomes.
- Develop strategy and a plan to strengthen your relationship management from the real-world cases.
The following real-life scenario highlights how a project manager dealt with a client's requirement while managing his hard-working team's emotions from being sabotaged. (suggested to add a brief grounding sentence here - Is my sentence on target?)
The Situation
John is managing a major construction project for a client. Midway through, the client insists on several design changes that would require additional effort and time from the engineering team. In a meeting with John and his team, the client appearing frustrated says, "These changes must be incorporated, and can't afford any delays. Your team needs to work faster to get them in."
John noticed the signs of stress on the faces of his team members from the client's comment. The team, which is one of the best in the firm has already been working long hours.
John, being an effective project manager, instead of agreeing with the client or defending his team, came out with an empathetic and a balanced response:
"I understand your concern about the timeline. My team is 100% committed to delivering quality work. Let's review the scope changes together and see which design changes can be phased in without compromising quality and timeframe."
In other words, John acknowledged the client's urgency but also advocated for his team. He later meets with his team to express his appreciation of their commitment and quality. He also took the time to explain how he was negotiating with the client based on more realistic expectations.
Impact
The client feels heard and agrees to prioritize only the most critical changes. The team feels valued and supported, leading to renewed commitment and higher-quality work.
John’s social awareness helps maintain both strong client relations and team's well-being — a key balance in successful project leadership.
Observations:
- John acknowledged the client's urgency but also advocated for his team.
- John earned the client's cooperation and his team's trust
Lessons Learned:
- Ensure stakeholders feel heard
- Make them a part of the solution by encouraging collaboration
- Your team's trust in you is paramount and don't do anything that will compromise it
We will now dive into social awareness and relationship management.
- 4.1: Social Awareness - A Core Skill
- This section describes social awareness in detail, including the sub-competencies organizational awareness, active listening, and empathy. Several real-life case studies are used to emphasize the concepts of social awareness.
- 4.2: Relationship Management - A Core Skill
- In this section, you will learn the essentials of relationship management, which includes the three sub-competencies, build and manage trust, communicate effectively, and manage conflicts. You will learn both conceptually and their application through real-life case studies.
- 4.3: Project Management Leadership
- A project manager leads the project team during a project life cycle enabling, empowering, and communicating with team members and stakeholders. Negotiation, decisiveness, and the four core EQ skills help you become a better leader. The essential leadership requirements for project management are discussed in this chapter.
- 4.4: Alternative Description of Image for Chapter 4
- This page describes the Emotional Intelligence Framework illustrated in Chapter 4.1. The focus of this chapter are the blocks covered by the red rectangle.
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